The Elegant Polyamorist

I have always been a man of an amorous disposition. I am dedicated in a manner both general and absolute to my beloved and she is likewise dedicated to me. This has never meant that we have been exclusive to one another. We are polyamorous.

Polyamory is a neo-logism (new word) fashioned from the Greek poly meaning "many" and Latin amor meaning "love."

The elegant polyamorist is one who treats his lovers well. Communication is open and honest. Agreements mean something. There are those who call themselves polyamorous who continue the hurtful cycles of cheating and serial monogamy, but neither they nor their practices have anything to do with polyamory.

In fact, polyamory, being inclusive, is an "in addition to" not "instead of" lovestyle. It's a way of loving more than one person at a time in a conjugal or sexual loving relationship without anyone being hurt or left out. Indeed, a growing number of polyamorists are crafting tribes of lovers who are equal in affection rather than the passe' system of primaries and secondaries. Who wants to be loved less and deemed less important?

Polyamory is different from swinging in that the latter involves sex and friendship but not love specifically. Even so, many polyamorists happily experience the swinging lifestyle as well.